Gay Hendricks

If you tell the truth at all times, you will have clear relationships with everyone.  If you do not, things will get out of control very quickly. To get back into the flow of harmony, all your have to do is look to see where you stopped telling the truth to yourself or someone else, and fix it by telling the truth.

Sexual problems are seldom about sex. Sex is the canary in the coal mine. When the canary keels over, coal miners do not apply CPR to the bird. They focus on fixing the larger problem, often invisible and pervasive, that is behind the obvious and visible bird problem. In over 90 percent of the cases in which I have been consulted regarding sexual problems,the sexual issues cleared up when more fundamental problems were handled. About 10 percent of the time, there was actually something wrong with the physiology or the technical aspects of sex that needed addressing. Sexual communication is the solution to almost every sexual problem. Again, amazingly enough, we receive little or no training in this crucial life skill in the traditional educational system.

...we aren’t responsible for creating all the bad things that happen to us. But we can claim responsibility for the bad things that happen and learn a lot about ourselves by doing so. It all depends on whether you think of responsibility as something you are or as something you do. For us, the only useful way of thinking about responsibility is as something we do. We use an operational definition of responsibility, not a theoretical one: Responsibility is an action you take, not a quality that can be assigned. A judge and jury can assign responsibility to a criminal for an act, but that criminal’s life will not begin to change until he or she makes a conscious choice to take responsibility... The key point is this: There is tremendous healing power in taking responsibility for something right now in the present, but no healing value in looking back to the past to blame yourself or anyone else.

Withdrawal and projection are the natural outcomes of withholding. When you withhold, you keep inside yourself things that should be expressed. The very act of hiding these things takes you one step back from the relationship. A result of this withdrawal is that you will begin to project. In other words, you will begin to attribute to other people things that are actually issues of your own.

The choice to experience life as a genuinely powerful person librates a huge amount of creative energy, and most people are unwilling to enjoy that amount of energy.

Willingness to learn from each moment--as opposed to defending ourselves by stonewalling, explaining, justifying, withdrawing, blaming--is much more important than IQ, family background or education. The great advantage of openness-to-learning is that you're in charge of it at all times. You can choose to shift out of defensiveness into genuine curiosity at any moment.

Go all the way, and inspire them with your full expression.

Life is at its best when love, money, and creativity are growing in harmony.

The problem is that a deep, sacred part of you will wither and die if you stay inside your Zone of Excellence. There is only one place where you will ultimately thrive and feel satisfied, and that’s... The Zone of Genius.

A hex is often put on gifted and talented people early in life. The hex causes them to feel bad when they shine especially brightly.

I encourage you to adopt this kind of playfulness toward all your ULPs. An attitude of playful wonder is characteristic of people when they’re operating in the Zone of Genius.

When you’re ‘Upper-Limiting,’ you’re doing something that is crimping your flow of positive energy. Fortunately, there are not very many ways we Upper-Limit ourselves.

We all need to be on the lookout for signs of our Upper Limit Problem every day of our lives. It’s a constant quest, because we’re always raising the bar on ourselves. The better we get, the better we want to be.

If you will make a powerful, sincere commitment—a vow that you really want to live your life in the Zone of Genius—your journey will be blessed with uncommon good fortune at all the twists and turns of the road. Commitment has that power.

She also discovered the real fear that was underneath it all: that if she made a big commitment to her creativity, she might fail on a bigger scale. If she stayed small, she could avoid the possibility of big rejection.

If we think it’s even remotely possible to feel good all the time and have life go well all the time, we owe it to ourselves to find out how many of us can do it.

To me, if something has the highest priority, it means I do it first... It takes a certain ruthlessness to set a priority and stick to it.

I expand in success, abundance and love every day as I inspire those around me to do the same.

‘So,’ I said, ‘let’s make a new deal between you and the universe right now. Are you willing to be wealthy in both money *and* love?’

My purpose was this: to expand in love and creativity every day and to assist those who are interested to expand in their ability to be more loving and creative.

Life is fullest when we are most true to ourselves.

Without question, fear is beyond our control. Herein lies the power and the prize. If you cannot control it, the only sane alternative is to relax into pure acceptance of it.

Take charge can sound like a willful move requiring a lot of effort, but in this case it’s not. Here, you take charge of your life by resonating in harmony with the way the universe works.

The space you feel in your body and mind feels seamlessly connected to the space-at-large in the cosmos. The space feels organically divine, as the drinking of water feels organically thirst quenching compared to seeing the formula for water written on a chalkboard.

The choice to experience life as a genuinely powerful person liberates a huge amount of creative energy, and most people are unwilling to enjoy that amount of energy.

There is tremendous healing power in taking responsibility for something right now in the present, but no healing value in looking back to the past to blame yourself or anyone else.

The great advantage of openness-to-learning is that you’re in charge of it at all times. You can choose to shift out of defensiveness into genuine curiosity at any moment.