Sexual problems are seldom about sex. Sex is the canary in the coal mine. When the canary keels over, coal miners do not apply CPR to the bird. They focus on fixing the larger problem, often invisible and pervasive, that is behind the obvious and visible bird problem. In over 90 percent of the cases in which I have been consulted regarding sexual problems,the sexual issues cleared up when more fundamental problems were handled. About 10 percent of the time, there was actually something wrong with the physiology or the technical aspects of sex that needed addressing. Sexual communication is the solution to almost every sexual problem. Again, amazingly enough, we receive little or no training in this crucial life skill in the traditional educational system.