Mel Robbins

You can always tell when the high five attitude has disappeared because you will not feel like taking action.

Feeling fear is normal. It’s what you do the moment after you feel the fear that makes the difference. You can be terrified of losing the game but still swing for the fences. You can be scared and still be confident in your ability to face this. You can feel the weight of the world on your shoulders and still stand tall.

As you use the Rule, you’ll see it too—there is a five-second window between your initial instinct to act and your brain stopping you. The problem was very clear. It was me. I was holding myself back, five seconds at a time.

When researchers study all the things that could change your life or that can make a meaningful impact on the quality of your life, the single most important change is making it a habit to be kind to yourself.

Spoiler alert: Life is going to test you. When you’re working to change your life, or achieve a goal, or pursue your dreams, you will hit a roadblock. Always. It is unavoidable.

Hold on. Let me over think about it.

When you are an adult, there is only one person’s opinion that matters: your own.

If you have the courage to start, you have the courage to succeed.

If you’re searching for that one person who will change your life look in the mirror.

Knowing what you need to do to improve your life takes wisdom. Pushing yourself to do it takes courage.

You can always connect the dots in your life if you are looking back. The true art is believing that this moment right now is a dot that is connecting you to something amazing that’s coming in the future.

There is no right time. There is only right now. You get one life. This is it. And it’s not going to begin again. It’s up to you to push yourself to make the most of it and the time to do it is right now.

When you replace the self-doubt and self-criticism that drags you down with self-acceptance and self-love that lifts you up, your life will change. So, how about YOU make this a habit?

The 5 Second Rule: The Moment you have an instinct to act on a goal you must 5-4-3-2-1 and physically move or your brain will stop you.

Procrastination and perfectionism are the two deadliest dream killers. They aren’t a high five—energetically, they’re a hell no! They slowly choke your ambitions to death until one day you wake up disappointed and resentful when you realize, I never even got started. First, let’s get one thing straight: You’re not a procrastinator or a perfectionist or an overthinker. You’re just scared.

Productivity can be boiled down to one word—FOCUS. There are two types of focus you need to master productivity. First, the ability to manage distractions so that you can focus moment-to-moment on the task at hand, and second, the skill of focusing on what’s truly important to you in the big picture, so you don’t waste your day on stupid stuff.

Most people get manifesting wrong because they try to visualize the end result. Neuroscience research tells us to visualize yourself doing the hard, annoying, small steps along the way to reaching your dreams. In doing so, you tell your brain, ‘I do the hard work. I take advantage of opportunities. And I don’t back down, I take action.’

The 5 Second Rule: The Moment you have an instinct to act on a goal you must 5-4-3-2-1 and physically move or your brain will stop you.